Traditional CRAP

The feet of people on a bus

I’ve always liked acronyms, and I’ve come up with the perfect one to encapsulate the 4 main types of tradition that dominate our lives:

  • Cultural
  • Religious
  • Ancestral
  • Personal

CRAP. A fitting acronym for most traditions, in my opinion. You see, when I hear the word tradition, another more insidious word comes to mind: Routine.

To the creative, the adventurous, and the free spirited, the word routine absolutely reeks of inhibition, boredom, and staleness.  Same old, same old. Gag. Continue reading…

The Myth of Perfection

The Myth of Perfection

One of the reasons that we tend to be such harsh critics of ourselves is the belief that we can, and perhaps need to be, perfect. Nothing could be further from the truth.

Perfection, true objective perfection, is an absolute myth. In our entire universe, one of the very few constants is change, and the thought that something can be objectively perfect is utter horseshit.

Are you familiar with Einstein’s theory of special relativity? While the details are quite complex, the simple version is this: truth is relative, based on the observer’s point of view. Continue reading…

Chicken Shit

Fox in the woods

Everyone feels fear, though not everyone is willing to admit it. Some people feel the effects of fear more intensely than others, while others seem to feel no fear at all. Fear sucks, and we have the Amygdala and the Hypothalamus to thank for it.

Perhaps you’ve heard of the fight-or-flight response? Well, there is also a lesser-known third response that occurs in the face of fear: Cower.

Some people fight, and some people flee…but many people just shut down. They become, quite literally, paralyzed by fear. I believe that every single one of us, at one point in time or another, has cowered in fear. Continue reading…

It Isn’t Nice to Point

Girl looking into bonfire

It’s human nature to point the finger at someone else, to shield ourselves from fault and guilt. When we fail at something, or when something happens that we don’t like or don’t understand, we have a tendency to look outward for something or someone to blame.

You take your life in your own hands, and what happens? A terrible thing: no one to blame.”  Erica Jong

We don’t like being wrong, feeling guilty, or facing things we can’t control or explain, so we do our damnedest to pass the buck and/or assign blame wherever possible.

But (and this is a BIG but) by assigning blame to someone else, we are essentially giving up our free choice. Saying “It’s so-and-so’s fault, not mine,” or anything to that effect might as well be translated as “I am but a sheep who follows the flock, and I therefore pass my free will off to someone else.” Continue reading…

So What’s Next?

Man, blogging with regularity is hard! I sit down, stare at the screen, and think, shit, I’ve already put all my best thoughts in the book, so what do I write here?

And then, the aha moment: well, if my best thoughts thus far are in the book, then perhaps I should just post my favorite chapters from the book.

So, over the next few months, I’ll be doing exactly that. 2-3 times per week, I’ll be putting up a chapter from the book, along with some extended material to help round it out (videos, links to other resources, etc.)

Beyond that, if there’s any subject you really want to see covered on here, please let me know in the comments!

 

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